A Graceful Maiden's Memoir

"The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in Him and I am helped. My heart leaps for joy and I will give thanks to Him in song!" - Psalm 28:7

Wednesday, June 14, 2006

Thoughts on Sweet Sixteen

In less than a month, I will be sixteen. Sweet sixteen, as it is called. My birthday is July 5th, and I'll be dancing away at dance camp when it comes. (By the way, my newly-found "twin" Jennifer will also be 16 on July 5th!)

It's amazing to me that I am already almost there. For years 16 has been the "oh wow!" age when I would be mostly grown. Now, I am almost there! I'll get to drive, and with that will have more freedom to go places, which will be fun... and at times scary!

It doesn't feel the way I thought it would feel to almost reach this milestone. In fact, sometimes I still feel like a little girl. But other times I feel I could easily be older than 16! Yes, feelings are weird things! :-) I know that many of you, who are a lot older than I must be suppressing a smile, but to me 16 is quite "so grown up!" :-)

As I contemplate Sweet Sixteen, I don' get images of being grown up and free to do whatever I feel like. It might be nice, but I, in this year ahead, want to be truly sweet. I want to be a true young lady of sweet disposition and gentle character. I want to be sweet and loving to all I come across, and not be aloof and withdrawn. I want to be sweet and loving to my family serving them with my time, instead of trying to get them to accommodate my wants and needs. I want to be sweet and loving to my friends, "spurring them on to love and good deeds" (Hebrews 10:24) instead of gossiping or using them for my selfish gain. I want to present to the world a sweet young lady following hard after God, instead of being like the stereotypical 16 year old girl of today, concerned with only shopping, boyfriends, and having a good time. "For charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised." (Proverbs 31:30)

I know that it won't be easy, but "I can do everything through Him who gives me strength." (Philippians 4:13)

I'll also finally look my age! :-) Us Lofgren girls seem to look to everyone else as 16 years old, from the time we're 12 to the time we're 24, so for a year people might actually be able to tell how old I am, but then I'll start looking younger...

So it is my prayer that in this next year of getting a little older, I shall get even sweeter and truly live out the verses of Proverbs 31:10-31, so that one day I shall have noble character and be worth far more than rubies. (Proverbs 31:10)

"Flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart." - 2 Timothy 2:22

"Don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith, and in purity." - 1 Timothy 4:12


  • At 11:43 AM, June 14, 2006, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Thats also my prayer too! I pray that I will pleasing to God each year! i want to be a proverbs 31 woman! A true woman of God!


  • At 12:56 PM, June 14, 2006, Blogger thepatriot15 said…

    Can't believe we're almost 16! Wow! I am so looking forward to not having to rely on anyone to drive me around...

    I have so loved getting to know you Anna, and it's a miracle how similar we are.... even in the same stages of life! May we both grow in gentleness and "sweetness" over the next year.

    Love you!

  • At 2:38 PM, June 14, 2006, Blogger Samantha C. Brooks said…

    wow, 16!! I still have 7 months, and counting down the days. lol. Are you planning anything special for you birthday?

  • At 7:00 PM, June 14, 2006, Blogger Susan said…

    Well, Anna, I may have reached that milestone 6 years ago, but I certainly wasn't supressing a smile while I read your post! I remember that "wow" feeling of turning 13, 16, 18, etc. It's so weird to reach those milestones, and partly feel ready for them, but also feel so young as well! I still have a hard time thinking of myself as an "adult," though I'm 22 :).

    You have the right idea about getting older. It's not about another year to chalk up to our credit as much as it is about growing in grace and maturity with our Lord! Each additional year God grants us on this earth is another year he has gifted us to serve him and grow to be more like him :). May we be found faithful!

  • At 8:55 PM, June 14, 2006, Blogger Ella said…

    Having turned sixteen in February, I recall looking forward and thinking, "Wow! How different I am at this age from those of the world!" I pondered that fact and decided that that was ok with me. I desire to be separate from the world in speech, in love, in life, and in purity. It's not an easy road to travel, and I know that the going will most likely get rougher, but God's strength is more than enough to see me through the storm.
    I know plenty of teenagers who are dating and things of that nature. Sure, I desire to get married, but I desire more to go to my future husband unashamed. A stand such as this is NOT popular, but Christianity in itself is not popular. I want to go into marriage as a bride who truly wore white.
    I apologize for such a long comment, and from someone you don't even know. I heard about your blog, Anna, through Above Rubies or something, and I decided to check it out. I found out that we have much in common. (Not only or standards, but also music, books, and movies!)
    A brief synopsis of myself: My name is Gabrielle and I live in Nampa, Idaho, with my parents and my brother. I am also homeschooled and I have a blog. (www.growingingod.blogspot.com). I would love for you to check it out!
    Thanks for such and encouraging post. It is nice to know that there are others such as me in the world.
    (P.S.- Just because you're sixteen doesn't mean you'll get to drive right away, even though we sometimes wish it. I have a friend who is seventeen and doesn't drive yet. Also, I don't look my age either. People say I look twelve. Mom says that will be a good thing when I am thirty.)

  • At 8:58 PM, June 14, 2006, Blogger Ella said…

    I just noticed something. You do praise dance or something of the sort? So did I for awhile. I have fond memories of that!

  • At 5:39 AM, June 15, 2006, Anonymous miriam hart said…

    Well, I won't be sixteen for another 5 months, but I'm with Anna on this post all the way.

    When I was about to turn 13, I didn't think much about the "being a teenager" part of it. I just accepted it as getting older (something I didn't want to do then). I wanted to stay young for as long as I could. I felt no different when I turned 13 or 14.
    I still felt like a little girl who still played in creeks and played "princesses" with my younger sister. But lots of things did change when I turned 15.
    I got a lot more responsibilities.
    I was depended on a lot more. I figured growing up wasn't so bad.
    So now I'm content to be my age, content to be growing up, but not ahead of my age, but with it.

    This is probably the longest comment I have ever made, but I felt like I needed to say it all, if any of y'all know what that is like. Anna, I know you pretty well, and I know you will be a very sweet 16, just like you're a very sweet 15. Love you!

    Miriam Rebekah

  • At 7:33 AM, June 15, 2006, Blogger Anna Naomi said…

    Wow! Lots of comments, how fun! :-)

    Ashley, glad that you have the same aspirations!

    Jen, yes, driving alone will be convinient sometimes! It is amazing how similar we are, I do pray that we both grow in sweetness and gentleness... me and my twin! :-)

    Samantha, it is exciting to be turning 16! I don't think we'll be doing much, since I'll be at dance camp on my birthday. We'll probably have a family dinner or something before I leave.

    Susan, thanks for the encouraging comment! Yes, those milestones are fun! I suppose 18 will be the "huge" age after I turn 16!

    Ella, I'm glad you found my blog! I enjoyed going to yours, funny that we have the same template! Your comment wasn't too long, I really enjoyed it! Yes, I am quite different from the "typical teenager", but I'm very happy that it's so. I also am commited to "waiting, not dating", so that I will be entirely pure before my husband one day.

    And although I know that a lot of people don't drive right away when they're 16, I will be getting my liscence as soon as possible. My parents really want me to get it so that I can drive myself to lessons and help drive my younger sister around when Elijah goes to college this fall. I doubt that I'll be albe to get it before August though, for I'll be gone most of July. I just hope I don't fail!

    Miriam dear, thanks for your abnormally long comment! :-) I love hearing from you, and it's fun to have you write a lot! I do know how you feel. I love you so, thanks for the sweet encouragement! I know you'll be a "sweet sixteener" as well! :-)

    Now, did that cover it? :-)

  • At 1:55 PM, June 15, 2006, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I'm only 14 and half but I really want to be changed by 16 b-day! I remember when I turned 13 I wanted to be a proverbs 31 woman, but at the time my life was a mess (youth problems etc.) now I really want to live for him!


  • At 5:38 PM, June 15, 2006, Blogger Jessica said…

    What a wonderful vision for your coming year! I too pray to become a lady of "sweet disposition and gentle character"...and we have an amazing God to work that in us! I'm so thankful for His patience...

  • At 6:58 PM, June 15, 2006, Blogger Kelsa said…

    I just found your blog through a comment you made on the Beauty from the Heart blog.

    I love this post, it is great! I know what you mean about not 'feeling' 16 (I turned 16 last October) I look at people the same age as me and they seem sooo much older. Though I don't know why. I suppose it is because they're going on dates, etc and I'm not. Anyway, I hadn't thought much about the "sweet" part of 16 until I read your post. Thanks for your thoughts!

  • At 8:33 PM, June 15, 2006, Blogger Anna Naomi said…

    thanks for your comments Ashley, Jessica, and Kelsa! I'm glad you found my blog, Kelsa!

  • At 10:12 AM, June 17, 2006, Blogger Jessie said…

    Happy Early Birthday!
    (It's my un-birthday today! Isn't that neat?) : )
    Thanks for your comment on my blog.
    I think you have something there, when you say you want to be truly "sweet". I love the verse, Proverbs 3:17, "Her ways are ways of pleasantness, and all her paths are peace." That this may be said of me, and all my girl friends, is my prayer. May all your ways be "pleasantness" too!
    Thanks for visiting my blog! I'll be sure to come back and check up on yours soon!

  • At 1:03 PM, November 17, 2006, Blogger Maria Pauline said…

    "In fact, sometimes I still feel like a little girl. But other times I feel I could easily be older than 16! Yes, feelings are weird things!"

    Although I'm only 14, I know what you mean. My emotions so often flit from young to old. Happy belated birthday too!


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